Mark and I fell pregnant with our first baby in October 2014. I had a healthy pregnancy and enjoyed every stage with such joy. My sister, Lizzie, was pregnant at the same time so we shared most experiences – from shopping to baby showers – and looked forward to having our babies grow up together as close as we are.
At 39 weeks and 5 days gestation everything went wrong.
On Saturday 27th June we heard her heartbeat.
On Sunday 28th June I felt and saw her moving.
On Monday 29th, at 11.00 a.m. there was no heartbeat.
After 36 hours in labour at Burnley General Hospital, I was sent to theatre for a Cesarean section.
At 8.33pm on Tuesday the 30th of June 2015, Maggie Pearl was born sleeping. “Let It Be” by The Beatles played in an otherwise quiet theatre. After cuddles with Mummy & Daddy, Maggie was placed in a cuddle cot with us in the Butterfly suite. We spent 3 days together, saying both our hello’s and goodbyes all at once.
We had pictures with Maggie, family visited from all over the world, and the staff were amazing in the time we spent with our baby girl.
I made a promise to Maggie the day she left hospital to go to the funeral home. I promised her:
I WILL NOT lose my mind and go crazy
I WILL NOT let her name be forgotten
I WILL NOT be silent about what happened to us in losing our amazingly perfect baby girl!
Maggie was laid to rest, with all her family around her, in July 2015.
Unfortunately, having spoken to other families around that time, they didn’t get the opportunity we did to spend time with their stillborn child as there was only one cuddle cot.
In September 2015, Maggie’s Stillbirth Legacy was built. Through online auctions we raise money to fund cold cots, memory boxes, bereavement rooms at hospitals, equipment for children’s activities and to support other families who have suffered this loss in every way possible.
We continue to support families through several Facebook pages. If you have been affected, then follow the links below and join us for extra support.
“All children are miracles, even the ones who couldn’t stay very long”